What kind of blog would this be if it didn't get pissed off at society once in a while?
Especially when it's written by a French person :-p
So, here's my little "coup de gueule".
One of the big problems of living with V is that we are alone, and we feel abnormal.
And it's partly because we have to shut up.
Yes, you can find information all over the internet, read blogs of other women with the same or similar problems. BUT we are all hiding behind anonymity (including me). Because we can't talk about it.
A broken arm, a twisted ankle: open topic. A disfunctional vagina, not so much.
Keep your mouth shut. Be ashamed and try to mend it in silence. As if we weren't feeling bad enough already.
We're in the 21st century. Sex is not supposed to be taboo anymore. Movies, magazines... sex is everywhere. But if something's not working properly, then the taboo's back. Where's the logic here?
Many doctors don't know about vulvodynia (cf. the gynecologists-marathon we've all been through before we were correctly diagnosed). In fact, it seems nobody has ever heard of it, unless they have it or are close to someone who has it. No kidding! If we don't talk about it, who is to hear about it?
Of course you could tell me: why don't YOU do something about it? And you would be right. But I would also be right to answer: because I'd like to keep a "normal" social life. It is hard enough to feel diminished, I don't need to see it in everybody's eyes.
Especially since people don't understand. Most of the time, they're not even trying. But it doesn't stop them from judging. Just have a look at the comments on some of the blogs written by women who have V.
Maybe my neighbour has the same problem as me. But I will never know. I will have to fight alone and in silence. At least I got my family and a few friends supporting me.
Just wanted to say I love this post and I agree!
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